For people navigating open (or open-ish) relationships who want to talk about sex and outside connections more comfortably, expand their sex lives, reduce tension and confusion, and create shared agreements that actually work in real life.
If this is where you're at...
Frustrated that you keep trying to change things—open up further, have sex more often, play with kinks, spice up the sex you’re having. While it’s not a “no,” it’s always “later”… and you’re just not ok with “later” anymore.
Constantly trying to find the “right time” to talk about a potential hook-up or the “right words” to express why opening up further is important to you (and how it doesn’t mean anything at all about your feelings for your partner).
Hard to start a conversation about wanting to fuck someone else when things have been less spicey with your partner recently.
Afraid sex with your partner will never come back—that you’ll be in a sexually incompatible relationship forever or will need to divorce or break up (maybe you’re not sure which would be worse).
This is where coaching with Brian will take you:
You’ll be able to talk comfortably and effectively with your partner about the topics that are important to you (think: your sex life, your hopes and fears for the future, the way you “do” nonmonogamy)
You’ll have a plan for how you navigate being open—so you can actually enjoy it. No more “open in theory but not really in practice.”
You’ll be clear about what’s “allowed” and on the same page about it, with boundaries, expectations, rules, or agreements that actually work for your relationship.
You’ll know when and how to talk about potential hookups or other outside connections.
You’ll up the spice level in your relationship—being able to comfortably pivot from less sexy moments like cooking dinner or doing laundry to flirting or initiating sex.
And you’ll have examples of other people who are also working through these same shifts so that you can remember you’re not the only ones out there!
Relationshift
Starts at 9-week commitment
$1,200 $997 (founding member pricing)
- Weekly group coaching calls
- 2 private coaching calls
- Unlimited in-app private coaching
- Structured trainings
- Actionable exercises
- Weekly progress checks
- Community support & discussion space
Private Coaching
Starts at 12-week commitment
$3,000
- Weekly private coaching calls
- Unlimited in-app private coaching
- Trainings and exercises as assigned
- Weekly progress checks
Not sure? Schedule a complimentary call and I’ll do a deep dive in your unique situation, make a recommendation on which is right for you, and answer any questions.
Keller was "flying by the seat of my pants" when his partner brought up an open relationship. Now, he's "way more confident" in his relationships.
Keller was cautiously considering an open relationship when he joined Relationshift. His partner had asked about opening up and while he hadn’t given much thought to it before, he was open to considering the idea but wanted to make sure they went about it in a way that made their relationship stronger.
Now, 5 years later, he and his partner John are not only still together, they’re married! And he’s feeling more confident than ever in his ability to have connections and relationships of all different types.
"I can now articulate my sexual interests more confidently and have a broader sense of what I'm wanting."
“I was able to evaluate my relationship under quite an intense lens. I now better understand what love actually is. I found places that I had work to do on myself re: giving and receiving love. In hearing back what | was saying about my relationship, I was able to confront what I wanted to do about it. That all gave me a whole new attitude / excitement / determination to make my relationship work on our terms.
I can now articulate my sexual interests more confidently and have a broader sense of what I’m wanting. Been able to discuss it more freely with the bf and even friends. There’s a confidence about the possibilities and who I am sexually.”
- Nic
Things were starting to fall apart for Matt & Dylan, but they didn't want it to end
Matt held back from saying what was really on his mind for fear of hurting Dylan, which ended up hurting him anyway! Dylan kept his feelings close to his chest, too. Things were good, bad, happy, or angry and not much else.
Matt’s outside connections were making Dylan uncomfortable. Dylan would use hints and codes to talk about his. They were open but they didn’t really talk about it
In coaching they learned to have hard conversations easier, to stop conflicts before they spiraled out of control, to grow closer to one another, and to have a system for hooking up with others that works for them.
They’re more emotionally fulfilled, closer than ever, and able to talk openly about their hookups.
Oh, and they recently bought their first house together!
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Not sure which is right for you? Schedule a complimentary call and I’ll do a deep dive in your unique situation, make a recommendation for what will be most helpful, and answer any questions.