Relationshift Group Coaching
For people navigating open (or open-ish) relationships who want to talk about sex and outside connections more comfortably, expand their sex lives, reduce tension and confusion, and create shared agreements that actually work in real life.
In Relationshift, you’ll go from feeling uncertain, scared, and frustrated to clear, comfortable, and connected.
If this is where you're at...
Frustrated that you keep trying to change things—open up further, have sex more often, play with kinks, spice up the sex you’re having. While it’s not a “no,” it’s always “later”… and you’re just not ok with “later” anymore.
Constantly trying to find the “right time” to talk about a potential hook-up or the “right words” to express why opening up further is important to you (and how it doesn’t mean anything at all about your feelings for your partner).
Hard to start a conversation about wanting to fuck someone else when things have been less spicey with your partner recently.
Afraid sex with your partner will never come back—that you’ll be in a sexually incompatible relationship forever or will need to divorce or break up (maybe you’re not sure which would be worse).
This is where Relationshift will take you:
You’ll be able to talk comfortably and effectively with your partner about the topics that are important to you (think: your sex life, your hopes and fears for the future, the way you “do” nonmonogamy)
You’ll have a plan for how you navigate being open—so you can actually enjoy it. No more “open in theory but not really in practice.”
You’ll be clear about what’s “allowed” and on the same page about it, with boundaries, expectations, rules, or agreements that actually work for your relationship.
You’ll know when and how to talk about potential hookups or other outside connections.
You’ll up the spice level in your relationship—being able to comfortably pivot from less sexy moments like cooking dinner or doing laundry to flirting or initiating sex.
And you’ll have examples of other people who are also working through these same shifts so that you can remember you’re not the only ones out there!
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Keller was "flying by the seat of my pants" when his partner brought up an open relationship. Now, he's "way more confident" in his relationships.
Keller was cautiously considering an open relationship when he joined Relationshift. His partner had asked about opening up and while he hadn’t given much thought to it before, he was open to considering the idea but wanted to make sure they went about it in a way that made their relationship stronger.
Now, 5 years later, he and his partner John are not only still together, they’re married! And he’s feeling more confident than ever in his ability to have connections and relationships of all different types.
Things were starting to fall apart for Matt & Dylan, but they didn't want it to end
Matt held back from saying what was really on his mind for fear of hurting Dylan, which ended up hurting him anyway! Dylan kept his feelings close to his chest, too. Things were good, bad, happy, or angry and not much else.
Matt’s outside connections were making Dylan uncomfortable. Dylan would use hints and codes to talk about his. They were open but they didn’t really talk about it
In coaching they learned to have hard conversations easier, to stop conflicts before they spiraled out of control, to grow closer to one another, and to have a system for hooking up with others that works for them.
They’re more emotionally fulfilled, closer than ever, and able to talk openly about their hookups.
Oh, and they recently bought their first house together!
Interested in Relationshift?
Relationshift is currently in progress.
Registration will re-open late summer 2026
Participate as an individual or with your partner(s)
Relationshift includes:
- Relationshift training materials: Take the guess work out of what to say or do with short trainings, scripts, icebreakers, prompts, conversation starters, and guided exercises in areas such as sex, communication, and boundary-setting/agreement-making. Practical takeaways you can actually use in your relationships.
- Custom step-by-step plan + accountability: I’ll make a custom plan that lays out what you’ll focus on for the program. With weekly touchpoints at the start/end of each week, you’ll have extra accountability and I’ll be able to offer even more personalized guidance to keep you moving forward.
- Weekly group coaching calls: Get personalized guidance on your specific situation whether or not you join live. Submit questions in advance and watch the replay or listen on the go with a private podcast feed.
- Unlimited private coaching by voice & text: This is something I’ve previously only offered to private clients. They’ve found it really helpful so I’m experimenting offering it in a group too for the relaunch. I’m not sure if or when this will be available outside of 1:1 again.
- 2 Private Coaching Calls
- “Getting Started” coaching call: We’ll uncover what you really want and what’s really holding you back
- “Next Steps” coaching call: Near the end of the program, you’ll get a second private coaching call. This one to make a plan to integrate what you accomplished in the program long-term and to make a clear plan for what to focus on next.
- Connect with others: learn from others who are figuring out how to make it work well alongside you. They’ll have tried things you haven’t yet, you’ll have questions they didn’t think of, everyone learns a little something from everyone else.
- Relationshift training materials
- Weekly group calls
- Unlimited private coaching (text & voice)
- 2 private coaching calls
- Community support & discussion space
Not sure if Relationshift is right for you? Schedule a complimentary call and I’ll do a deep dive in your unique situation, make a recommendation, and answer any questions.
Engage in the ways that are comfortable for you.
Whether you prefer to learn and practice on your own, hear others' perspectives, or get personalized coaching on exactly what you're going through, you can learn, grow, and get support in the ways that work for you.
While Michael valued hearing the experiences, perspectives, and questions of others in the program live on group calls, Andres preferred to dive into the program materials—training videos, short worksheets, practical exercises, and even the group call replays—on his own schedule.
Relationshift is designed to meet you and your partner(s) exactly where you are and to support you in ways that are comfortable for you, while still being effective in making the shifts in your relationship that you really desire.
With unlimited voice & text coaching, you have support whenever and wherever you need it.
Your relationship doesn't happen on a set schedule, neither does Relationshift.
The weekly group calls are just one part of Relationshift. The private members-only community space is there whenever you need support, outside perspectives, or someone who will understand what you’re going through.
And… you have access to unlimited private coaching through voice and text. You’ll never have to feel stuck, overwhelmed, unsure, or alone because you can reach out at any time.
Here’s a short story of one way Chavonn took advantage of private voice/text coaching 👉
Practical, actionable materials that you'll use for the rest of your relationship.
Graduation is the goal, not endless processing. The practices you'll develop and exercises you'll learn will support your relationship long after Relationshift ends.
Keller and his husband used the trainings, coaching, and worksheets/exercises to set boundaries, communicate with more curiosity, and start rituals that reinforce their relationship and get ahead of conflict.
But life happens and so do you.
A year later, they realized some of their boundaries had shifted had gone unaddressed… and went back to the resources they’d saved so they could repeat the process and get back on track.
Registration will re-open late summer 2026
What’s possible at the end of the Relationshift?
By the end of the 9-week program, you’ll have a more connected open relationship, more comfortable communication, and a spicier sex life.
That might look like:
- Communicating with your partner about your sex lives (together and apart)
- Being settled in your approach to being open
- More comfortable discussing sex, desire, and kink with your partner
- Being comfortable having sex outside your marriage
(no longer feeling like you’re doing something wrong even though you’ve agreed to it) - Navigating feelings that come up with recurring hookups, fuckbuddies, FWBs, and other less-clearly-defined people in your life
- Clarity on what your interests and desires are (and how to act on them)
- Feeling confident and fulfilled, rather than jealous, left out, or alone
- Enjoying new experiences
- Handling outside encounters with greater confidence (or exploring on your own for the first time!)
Here's how Relationshift works:
First, complete your registration.
Then, we’ll get your first private coaching call scheduled.
You’ll have access to the first module of training materials and community space on Monday June 15.
The first group call is Wednesday June 17.
Enrollment for next cohort will open late summer 2026
Frequently Asked Questions
Relationshift costs $997 with a 3-month payment plan available.
The program is designed so you can accomplish your relationship goals on your own schedule: you can get coaching whenever you need it.
You’ll have unlimited private coaching by voice & text. No need to wait a week for direct support on your situation or answers to your questions.
You’ll also have the Relationshift materials to guide you—in the past, some clients have just used these materials and gotten everything they wanted, no need for setting aside time for live calls or additional support.
But you don’t have to go it alone! You can ask for advice, share your challenges, and celebrate your wins in the community space as they come up; submit questions in advance of the coaching calls and then listen to your coaching on a schedule that works for you; and get unlimited coaching text and voice-message whenever you need it.
You can join either as an individual or as partners. The program is designed to get you talking about sex and outside connections more comfortably, expand your sex life, reduce tension and confusion, and create shared agreements that actually work in real life either way.
Some people want to have the shared experience of going through it together, while others prefer to have a coach focused solely on them as an individual. It’s up to you!
If there are 4 or more partners in your relationship or you’d like to include your larger polycule, please email brian@thisisbgm.com.
If your partner is hesitant to get outside support, no shame and no blame! They probably have very understandable reasons. Whether or not they choose to participate, you can make big shifts in your relationship by joining as an individual. Here is Chavonn sharing about getting coaching on her own when her partner didn’t want to join:
If you want your partner to join with you, you could start by asking if they would be willing to simply learn more about the program, no pressure to join. You can share what’s important to you about getting support.
If you’re that partner reading, hi! I’m not hear to convince you to do anything you don’t want to do!
A few things I’d want you to know:
Relationshift is a group coaching program and is distinct from therapy. They can both be helpful, but if therapy has not be helpful for you, a different approach might be.
Talking about sex and relationships can feel really vulnerable. I’ve been there. In Relationshift, you don’t have to wonder if I really get what it’s like to be queer, to have gay sex, or to be navigating non-monogamy. You’ll know it. There’s something different about working with someone who shares those identities and experiences.
It’s not my job to convince anyone to be open or polyamorous; it’s my job to help you build the relationship that is right for you, improving communication, commitment, connection, and chemistry along the way. (I even worked with one couple to close their relationship!)
Matt & Dylan were hesitant to try relationship coaching too, you can hear more of their story above and below (or the full conversation on the podcast here).
Questions before signing up?
DM Brian on Instagram (@ThisIsBGM) or send an email to brian@thisisbgm.com
"A big part of coaching was about wholeness."
“I became a slut, Brian! I say that jokingly. but I kind of embraced it.
A big part of coaching was about wholeness. About incorporating all parts of myself. I had that horrible Christian distinction between spirit, soul and flesh. Through coaching, just merging the fact that this is all one was really important to me. Within a few months I just took to it like—like [my boyfriend] said “like a duck to water.”
I’ve changed a lot. Coaching gave me the confidence to know what I was doing and the encouragement to know that it is good.”
- Craig
"I can now articulate my sexual interests more confidently and have a broader sense of what I'm wanting."
“I was able to evaluate my relationship under quite an intense lens. I now better understand what love actually is. I found places that I had work to do on myself re: giving and receiving love. In hearing back what | was saying about my relationship, I was able to confront what I wanted to do about it. That all gave me a whole new attitude / excitement / determination to make my relationship work on our terms.
I can now articulate my sexual interests more confidently and have a broader sense of what I’m wanting. Been able to discuss it more freely with the bf and even friends. There’s a confidence about the possibilities and who I am sexually.”
- Nic
More from Matt & Dylan:
“We were bickering in front of friends” now “We’re getting comments from friends that it looks like we’re doing really well. We are!”
“I can trust him to be vulnerable”
“There’s no fucking way! Expecting you to get to that level of [emotional openness] is never going to happen. I should just accept that.”