Brian G. Murphy is a seasoned activist, certified coach, published author, and sought-after speaker who helps you build thriving relationships, deeper friendships, healthier families, and vibrant communities through the wisdom of love beyond monogamy.
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Brian G. Murphy
Hi, I’m Brian G. Murphy and I help LGBTQ and non-monogamous people build thriving relationships on our own terms.
I know what it takes because not only have I worked with nearly 100 individuals, couples, triads, and quads, I’ve been there myself.
You’ll build the confidence to ask for what you really want in your relationship and sex life, learn the skills to communicate with your partner(s) in productive ways, and stoke the sparks of sexual chemistry in a long-term relationship.
I combine research-backed tools, direct and empathetic coaching, a clear plan, and structured accountability to support clients in talking about sex and outside connections more comfortably, expanding their sex lives, reducing tension and confusion, and creating shared agreements that actually work in real life.
Work with me
Relationshift
A 9-week program for people navigating open (or open-ish) relationships who want to talk about sex and outside connections more comfortably, expand their sex lives, reduce tension and confusion, and create shared agreements that actually work in real life.
In Relationshift, you’ll go from feeling uncertain, scared, and frustrated to clear, comfortable, and connected.
If you want a fuller, more honest, more alive relationship and sex life, this is for you.
Private Coaching
Starting at 12-weeks, for people who want to tackle more complex relationship challenges in a completely private context.
Not sure which is right for you? Schedule a complimentary call and I’ll do a deep dive in your unique situation, make a recommendation for what will be most helpful, and answer any questions.
Keller was "flying by the seat of my pants" when his partner brought up an open relationship. Now, he's "way more confident" in his relationships.
Keller was cautiously considering an open relationship when he joined Relationshift. His partner had asked about opening up and while he hadn’t given much thought to it before, he was open to considering the idea but wanted to make sure they went about it in a way that made their relationship stronger.
Now, 5 years later, he and his partner John are not only still together, they’re married! And he’s feeling more confident than ever in his ability to have connections and relationships of all different types.
"I can now articulate my sexual interests more confidently and have a broader sense of what I'm wanting."
“I was able to evaluate my relationship under quite an intense lens. I now better understand what love actually is. I found places that I had work to do on myself re: giving and receiving love. In hearing back what | was saying about my relationship, I was able to confront what I wanted to do about it. That all gave me a whole new attitude / excitement / determination to make my relationship work on our terms.
I can now articulate my sexual interests more confidently and have a broader sense of what I’m wanting. Been able to discuss it more freely with the bf and even friends. There’s a confidence about the possibilities and who I am sexually.”
- Nic
Things were starting to fall apart for Matt & Dylan, but they didn't want it to end
Matt held back from saying what was really on his mind for fear of hurting Dylan, which ended up hurting him anyway! Dylan kept his feelings close to his chest, too. Things were good, bad, happy, or angry and not much else.
Matt’s outside connections were making Dylan uncomfortable. Dylan would use hints and codes to talk about his. They were open but they didn’t really talk about it
In coaching they learned to have hard conversations easier, to stop conflicts before they spiraled out of control, to grow closer to one another, and to have a system for hooking up with others that works for them.
They’re more emotionally fulfilled, closer than ever, and able to talk openly about their hookups.
Oh, and they recently bought their first house together!
Take a peek behind the scenes and get direct access to private reflections and actionable insights on sex, intimacy, and building a life in alignment with your values ⤵
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I love diving deep on the topics of sex and relationships, friendship, spiritual practices, and queer meaning-making (and how to move from listening into action!)
Want to have me on your podcast or YouTube? Get in touch!